What You See Is What You Get
by Christy Whitman
Have you ever wondered how two people can work in the same industry, attend the same business conference, or walk into the same social gathering and create two completely different experiences? What is it that causes one person to see potential – for connection, for expansion, for fun – when another sees only the possibility of failure or rejection?
Try this little experiment: The next time you walk into a situation – be it a restaurant, a business meeting, or a family gathering – take a moment to notice what you notice. What is the very first thing that grabs your attention? Is it the couple looking adoringly at one another from across a table? Is it the co-worker in the corner who appears like she feels out of place? Paying attention to where your awareness naturally goes offers a glimpse into your core beliefs. What you see when you look around is not “reality.” It is your interpretation of reality, which is constructed by your beliefs .
So, for example, if you have a core belief that you are inadequate, this belief will filter the infinite number of possibilities that could unfold at virtually every moment and bring your awareness only to those that reinforce the belief that you are inadequate. However, if you can shift this belief – even slightly – from “I am inadequate,” to “I am free to make new choices at any moment,” this seemingly insignificant alteration in your thinking will open up possibilities previously unseen. It’s like turning a kaleidoscope; move the dial even a few degrees , and an entirely new picture comes into view.
Everything we attract into our lives – whether we’re experiencing struggle or ease, scarcity or abundance, boredom or delight, frustration or fulfillment – is the direct result of our beliefs. Whether we are the person who walks into the room expecting to have a good experience or the person who walks in and is already resigned to having a bad one, is a function of what we believe is possible. Neither of these realities is the “truth,” and neither one is pre-determined by anyone but ourselves. The proverbial glass is neither half empty nor is it half full. It is what you believe it to be.